Question: Nature vs. Nurture

So since I didn't feel like writing anything today, I have a question I wanted to revisit.

A while ago me and damn near all of my facebook friends were having an argument on whether or not it was NATURAL to be monogamous. It's my personal opinion that it's not NATURAL to be with one person sexually, but societal norm natures us to believe that this is how we should be...

I need to know though, once and for all. Is it natural to be with just ONE person? And if no, then can you blame your partner for cheating on you??

More New Hov: Reminder. The track is ASS but he goes in

Feminine Friday (no homo): Ginger+Liz Color Collection

I know it seems like this site is here to overly critique the female species. Don’t take it personally, I LOVE women. I think ya’ll are God’s greatest gift to this world besides Jesus Christ himself.

To prove how much I love you all, from now on every Friday is going to be Feminine Friday on the site… Ok, so probably not EVERY Friday, but every once and a while… We’re going to let one or two females write a piece on selected Friday’s AND I will also interview a woman who has a product or service to offer so they can get their stuff out there. Is that not dope? So if you want to get down with the get down hit me up at RodneyRikai@Gmail.com
The first female to be interviewed for Feminine Friday is one of my best female friends. I’ve known her over 10 years, and I can’t believe that she has grown into the successful human being that she has; not to say that I ever doubted her. It just blows my mind that somebody I have such a great relationship with is really in the driver’s seat, mashin’ the pedal in her own lane in “the industry”.

Her name is Sara Pickett and if it sounds familiar it should. She has been Ms. Everywhere in her blossoming career. She’s had billboards on some of the busiest streets in Manhattan, and hosted shows for BET and MTV alike, she’s even THE girl on the Motion’s box! She’s been in countless movies and videos, including Jay-z’s Excuse Me Miss and several other high profile, tasteful videos of the same persuasion.

Besides being a highly touted Model/VJ/Actress/Author, Sara is an entrepreneur. She, along with her partner Ginger Johnson, have a DOPE new cosmetic line called Ginger+Liz Color Collection. Obviously it’s nothing that we would rock fellaz, but wifey definitely needs a bottle or seven. The eye-popping colors have equally enticing names like Boy Toy, Swagger and He’s So Into Me. They are a direct reflection of the woman most women yearn to be: Bold yet subtle. Classy yet Racy. Modest yet Adorned.
This is definitely a product that needs to be seen by all. So we’re actually going to do a follow up interview on camera so that you guys can get an actual visual of how dope these colors are. As bright as the colors of Ginger+Liz are, they definitely have developed a product with the age-old adage “substance before style” in mind. Think it’s too good to be true? Here’s a snippet of some of our interview with the owners of this dope new line…

MenWithGirls.Com (MWG): So how did you guys come up with Ginger+Liz?
Ginger Johnson (GJ): Ginger and Liz are our middle names. After bouncing around a number of names we decided to keep it simple and glam. That's what our product is about. We provide small ticket luxury goods to the discerning customer influenced by fashion, entertainment, art, and travel.

MWG: What makes your product unique in comparison to your competition?
Sara Pickett (SP): OMG, its everything! Starting with the names of the nail polish. We put serious thought in making them fun and relatable… The quality, how long it lasts. Our polishes are two-coat nail polishes. You guys (referencing MWG) may not understand what that means, BUT, when you’re in a salon, you don’t want some chick putting on four coats of nail polish and then you have to sit there for 30 minutes while it dries! Who has time for that?

MWG: Which celebrities can you see rocking the following colors? “Heartbreaker”.
SP:Who’s a heartbreaker? Hmmm… Meagan Fox! Hands down, all day.

MWG: “He’s So Into Me”.
SP: Hmmm she has to be loved by everybody. Yet sweet and sexy... I think Sloan (actress Emmanuelle Chriqui) from Entourage. I had an hour long convo with someone the other day and they just kept telling me how she’s so ridiculously hot, yet sweet enough for tea with grandma.

MWG: Ok, so let’s switch it up. I say a celebrity, you say a color… Angelina Jolie?
SP: “Put a Ring on it”. When you see her, she’s just bad and you gotta have her.

MWG: Ok, so the current love of my life is Keri Hilson. If you had to pick a color which would it be?
SP: Everybody loves Keri! She definitely gets “Chase Me”. Men love her, hell, women love her…

MWG: Amberose?
SP: Yo! She is a bad B!T#H! She needs “Gimme More” or “Swagger”. Actually she’s so bad she can get every single color. A different color on each nail, she is the only one who can catch that.

MWG: Ok, Ginger what about you? Who do you see rockin’ your line?
GJ: We've already seen reality tv star Heidi Montag wearing "Swagger" in her soon to be released music video. Swagger is sure to be our cult classic shade and we envision Rihanna loving it as well. It's a cool and edgy metallic color with rose gold undertones. We can envision Michelle Obama wearing "Boss Lady" and we think Oprah would love "He's So Into Me". "Heartbreaker" would look great on Keira Knightley and "Gimme More" would do well for Britney Spears!

MWG: So right now where can people go to pick up Ginger+Liz?
GJ: Prayerfully the www.gingerandliz.com site will be up early September. We’re shooting for a 09.09.09 launch date. But you can also find the line at Serenity Spa and April Burton's Suite 303 in New York and Polished Beauty Bar and Stephen Webster salon in Atlanta. Nail salons have been very responsive to our line, excited about it even! Miami and Los Angeles locations soon to come... And of course we’re going to be selling product at you guys event on Aug. 30th at Dolce in Elizabeth, NJ!

We’ll have the on camera interview up first thing Monday. But in all honesty, the product is flat out nuts. As a man, I pay little to no attention to nails at all. But the colors and finish they have commanded my attention. I definitely have a feeling this line is going to take off. You can be one of the first to cop Ginger+Liz if you come out to the “heART Gallery”. Aug. 30th from 6-10pm at Dolce in Elizabeth.

This is a Video I Made and Edited about Tough Guys. It's My 1st IMovie, so It's Kinda Rough... But Enjoy...

Sex Em', but Don't Kiss Em'

So is kissing still alive? Is it still considered a possible precursor to sex? A lot of men and women have adapted a no kiss rule unless they are involved in serious relationships. Other than the obvious concerns about mouth sores, when did the disdain over kissing become so strong?? In high school kissing was my sh!t. I had the joint mastered and perfected to a ‘T’, I knew if I kissed her I was at least going to feel a titty. That’s just how powerful my lip game was. Now it’s like if you try to kiss someone you’ve ruined the atmosphere. Completely sucked the lust out the room.

The worst is trying to go in for the kiss and the person either jumps out the way or damn near breaks their neck trying to avoid your lips. And then there’s the awkward pause afterwards followed by the inevitable “I’m not really into the whole kissing thing” speech. Years ago when I was still out there like that, I experienced being on both ends of the spectrum. Somewhere along the way I realized that kissing was no longer THE move, I too adapted a dislike for kissing.

As the one trying to go in for the kiss I found it hard to bounce back and find my sexy once my kiss attempt was rejected. Kissing was my go to move, my best offensive weapon at one point. So if my try was shut down, I didn’t really have a back up plan. I was kinda stuck on an island because I was never too fond of kissing necks (and the ear thing kinda grossed me out too). I mean I wasn’t out there kissing any and every old jawn, but coming up that’s what I practiced on (don’t act like you never hit the back of your hand up either nigga!). I even asked a couple of older girls to kiss me and tell me how good I was or what I needed to work on. It was THAT important to me.

Then in college, probably about halfway through freshman year, I realized that I too had adopted a no kiss law. I would damn near hop out of a bed/car (this was freshman year, things could get freaky) to avoid lips. I remember me and a couple of my boys exchanging stories “Man, do you know this chick tried to KISS me?” we would say, as if she had tried to bite a hole in our throats. It seemed like in college people just got sloppy with the kissing, maybe it was due to the fact that alcohol was now in the picture, but it was just a turn off. When I felt like someone was leaning in to kiss me I’d turn my head so they got my neck only, then I’d act is if I liked it. Truthfully in my head I was wishing I could just fast forward to the part right BEFORE… you know… But I couldn’t so I had to just sit there and let my neck be lathered up with saliva. Gross.

Yea, once I got to college people just didn’t take the art as serious anymore. They’d either have WAY too much spit in their mouth or lick their lips too wet or worse, their lips would be cracked and dry. Then you had those who started trying this new freaky type of kiss where they would bite your lips. I mean I’m all for growth and development and trying something new, but the whole chomping on my lips thing just WAS NOT sexy. I faked it a couple times, acted like I liked it, but truthfully I thought it was just ass and painful. Maybe there was ONE girl who did it and I enjoyed, but other than that, negative. Also, women started applying too much damn lip-gloss. FYI ladies, MAC lip-gloss is WAY too sticky to be trying to kiss with. Like… ilk… you’re better off just getting Balmex or some sort of flavored balm. It may be nice in the club or for pictures, but if you think you’re going to end up kissing, have a backup lip gloss more conducive with lip locking than Mac.

Obviously kissing is VERY intimate, it’s extremely up close and personal. Throw in the times when you lock eyes and you have moments when you can literally see someone’s soul, face to face. For some it’s too intimate though. I asked my homegirl just like night how she felt about kissing and this is what she said: “…yea man, cant go around kissing everyone you sexin’”. I was shocked that she said it because she’s so not the whorish type at all. And it got me to thinking if even women like her aren’t down, then kissing is dead!

But the ones who like it, love it. And the ones who don’t like it, would rather be shot than participate. It just sounds crazy to me that people are perfectly fine having sex with someone, but not kissing. I don’t know if that says kissing is that disgusting or sex is that casual (probably a combo of the two). I’m still stuck somewhere in the middle on it. It has to be the right person, right time and I would have to KNOW you, and WELL. I need feedback on this one though: Kissing, yes or no? Why or why not? Comment Below.

Your Time to Shine...

So I know I ALWAYS make fun of all the girls who SWEAR they are models on facebook and myspace. Im not sorry, but I want you guys to prove me wrong. The next heART gallery, like we had live painting at the last, we're going to have a LIVE PHOTO SHOOT!!! Over the next couple of weeks we will narrow down all the pictures we receive to THREE models & award them with professional photography from Mary Grace Oania (google her) to help start their portfolio!!! Dope right? So if you have friends/cousins/co-workers/etc. tell them to send in a pic (I don't need to see you half naked, BUT, if you want to send those they can DEFINITELY be looked over) to my email address which is RodneyRikai@gmail.com, or Tex @ CitrusCity@gmail.com or Femi @ NJeducated@gmail.com. Serious inquiries only. We will also be supplying hair and makeup for you too, how dope is that?

This is for HIGH FASHION models ONLY. Not for those of you who are aspiring to be in XXL or Playboy or Gucci Man's new video. If you want to do those things, we CAN help you, but this event is geared towards another genre of model...

So if you're looking for a chance, or you've been plotting entering the industry and think you have what it takes, hit us up. This will be an on scene shoot, with onlookers, just like you'd have at ANY other shoot. Please be prepared to take direction and more importantly, work. We look forward to helping you launch a CAREER!