HeART Gallery Promo Video: Classic!!!

Question: Nature vs. Nurture

So since I didn't feel like writing anything today, I have a question I wanted to revisit.

A while ago me and damn near all of my facebook friends were having an argument on whether or not it was NATURAL to be monogamous. It's my personal opinion that it's not NATURAL to be with one person sexually, but societal norm natures us to believe that this is how we should be...

I need to know though, once and for all. Is it natural to be with just ONE person? And if no, then can you blame your partner for cheating on you??

More New Hov: Reminder. The track is ASS but he goes in

Feminine Friday (no homo): Ginger+Liz Color Collection

I know it seems like this site is here to overly critique the female species. Don’t take it personally, I LOVE women. I think ya’ll are God’s greatest gift to this world besides Jesus Christ himself.

To prove how much I love you all, from now on every Friday is going to be Feminine Friday on the site… Ok, so probably not EVERY Friday, but every once and a while… We’re going to let one or two females write a piece on selected Friday’s AND I will also interview a woman who has a product or service to offer so they can get their stuff out there. Is that not dope? So if you want to get down with the get down hit me up at RodneyRikai@Gmail.com
The first female to be interviewed for Feminine Friday is one of my best female friends. I’ve known her over 10 years, and I can’t believe that she has grown into the successful human being that she has; not to say that I ever doubted her. It just blows my mind that somebody I have such a great relationship with is really in the driver’s seat, mashin’ the pedal in her own lane in “the industry”.

Her name is Sara Pickett and if it sounds familiar it should. She has been Ms. Everywhere in her blossoming career. She’s had billboards on some of the busiest streets in Manhattan, and hosted shows for BET and MTV alike, she’s even THE girl on the Motion’s box! She’s been in countless movies and videos, including Jay-z’s Excuse Me Miss and several other high profile, tasteful videos of the same persuasion.

Besides being a highly touted Model/VJ/Actress/Author, Sara is an entrepreneur. She, along with her partner Ginger Johnson, have a DOPE new cosmetic line called Ginger+Liz Color Collection. Obviously it’s nothing that we would rock fellaz, but wifey definitely needs a bottle or seven. The eye-popping colors have equally enticing names like Boy Toy, Swagger and He’s So Into Me. They are a direct reflection of the woman most women yearn to be: Bold yet subtle. Classy yet Racy. Modest yet Adorned.
This is definitely a product that needs to be seen by all. So we’re actually going to do a follow up interview on camera so that you guys can get an actual visual of how dope these colors are. As bright as the colors of Ginger+Liz are, they definitely have developed a product with the age-old adage “substance before style” in mind. Think it’s too good to be true? Here’s a snippet of some of our interview with the owners of this dope new line…

MenWithGirls.Com (MWG): So how did you guys come up with Ginger+Liz?
Ginger Johnson (GJ): Ginger and Liz are our middle names. After bouncing around a number of names we decided to keep it simple and glam. That's what our product is about. We provide small ticket luxury goods to the discerning customer influenced by fashion, entertainment, art, and travel.

MWG: What makes your product unique in comparison to your competition?
Sara Pickett (SP): OMG, its everything! Starting with the names of the nail polish. We put serious thought in making them fun and relatable… The quality, how long it lasts. Our polishes are two-coat nail polishes. You guys (referencing MWG) may not understand what that means, BUT, when you’re in a salon, you don’t want some chick putting on four coats of nail polish and then you have to sit there for 30 minutes while it dries! Who has time for that?

MWG: Which celebrities can you see rocking the following colors? “Heartbreaker”.
SP:Who’s a heartbreaker? Hmmm… Meagan Fox! Hands down, all day.

MWG: “He’s So Into Me”.
SP: Hmmm she has to be loved by everybody. Yet sweet and sexy... I think Sloan (actress Emmanuelle Chriqui) from Entourage. I had an hour long convo with someone the other day and they just kept telling me how she’s so ridiculously hot, yet sweet enough for tea with grandma.

MWG: Ok, so let’s switch it up. I say a celebrity, you say a color… Angelina Jolie?
SP: “Put a Ring on it”. When you see her, she’s just bad and you gotta have her.

MWG: Ok, so the current love of my life is Keri Hilson. If you had to pick a color which would it be?
SP: Everybody loves Keri! She definitely gets “Chase Me”. Men love her, hell, women love her…

MWG: Amberose?
SP: Yo! She is a bad B!T#H! She needs “Gimme More” or “Swagger”. Actually she’s so bad she can get every single color. A different color on each nail, she is the only one who can catch that.

MWG: Ok, Ginger what about you? Who do you see rockin’ your line?
GJ: We've already seen reality tv star Heidi Montag wearing "Swagger" in her soon to be released music video. Swagger is sure to be our cult classic shade and we envision Rihanna loving it as well. It's a cool and edgy metallic color with rose gold undertones. We can envision Michelle Obama wearing "Boss Lady" and we think Oprah would love "He's So Into Me". "Heartbreaker" would look great on Keira Knightley and "Gimme More" would do well for Britney Spears!

MWG: So right now where can people go to pick up Ginger+Liz?
GJ: Prayerfully the www.gingerandliz.com site will be up early September. We’re shooting for a 09.09.09 launch date. But you can also find the line at Serenity Spa and April Burton's Suite 303 in New York and Polished Beauty Bar and Stephen Webster salon in Atlanta. Nail salons have been very responsive to our line, excited about it even! Miami and Los Angeles locations soon to come... And of course we’re going to be selling product at you guys event on Aug. 30th at Dolce in Elizabeth, NJ!

We’ll have the on camera interview up first thing Monday. But in all honesty, the product is flat out nuts. As a man, I pay little to no attention to nails at all. But the colors and finish they have commanded my attention. I definitely have a feeling this line is going to take off. You can be one of the first to cop Ginger+Liz if you come out to the “heART Gallery”. Aug. 30th from 6-10pm at Dolce in Elizabeth.

This is a Video I Made and Edited about Tough Guys. It's My 1st IMovie, so It's Kinda Rough... But Enjoy...

Sex Em', but Don't Kiss Em'

So is kissing still alive? Is it still considered a possible precursor to sex? A lot of men and women have adapted a no kiss rule unless they are involved in serious relationships. Other than the obvious concerns about mouth sores, when did the disdain over kissing become so strong?? In high school kissing was my sh!t. I had the joint mastered and perfected to a ‘T’, I knew if I kissed her I was at least going to feel a titty. That’s just how powerful my lip game was. Now it’s like if you try to kiss someone you’ve ruined the atmosphere. Completely sucked the lust out the room.

The worst is trying to go in for the kiss and the person either jumps out the way or damn near breaks their neck trying to avoid your lips. And then there’s the awkward pause afterwards followed by the inevitable “I’m not really into the whole kissing thing” speech. Years ago when I was still out there like that, I experienced being on both ends of the spectrum. Somewhere along the way I realized that kissing was no longer THE move, I too adapted a dislike for kissing.

As the one trying to go in for the kiss I found it hard to bounce back and find my sexy once my kiss attempt was rejected. Kissing was my go to move, my best offensive weapon at one point. So if my try was shut down, I didn’t really have a back up plan. I was kinda stuck on an island because I was never too fond of kissing necks (and the ear thing kinda grossed me out too). I mean I wasn’t out there kissing any and every old jawn, but coming up that’s what I practiced on (don’t act like you never hit the back of your hand up either nigga!). I even asked a couple of older girls to kiss me and tell me how good I was or what I needed to work on. It was THAT important to me.

Then in college, probably about halfway through freshman year, I realized that I too had adopted a no kiss law. I would damn near hop out of a bed/car (this was freshman year, things could get freaky) to avoid lips. I remember me and a couple of my boys exchanging stories “Man, do you know this chick tried to KISS me?” we would say, as if she had tried to bite a hole in our throats. It seemed like in college people just got sloppy with the kissing, maybe it was due to the fact that alcohol was now in the picture, but it was just a turn off. When I felt like someone was leaning in to kiss me I’d turn my head so they got my neck only, then I’d act is if I liked it. Truthfully in my head I was wishing I could just fast forward to the part right BEFORE… you know… But I couldn’t so I had to just sit there and let my neck be lathered up with saliva. Gross.

Yea, once I got to college people just didn’t take the art as serious anymore. They’d either have WAY too much spit in their mouth or lick their lips too wet or worse, their lips would be cracked and dry. Then you had those who started trying this new freaky type of kiss where they would bite your lips. I mean I’m all for growth and development and trying something new, but the whole chomping on my lips thing just WAS NOT sexy. I faked it a couple times, acted like I liked it, but truthfully I thought it was just ass and painful. Maybe there was ONE girl who did it and I enjoyed, but other than that, negative. Also, women started applying too much damn lip-gloss. FYI ladies, MAC lip-gloss is WAY too sticky to be trying to kiss with. Like… ilk… you’re better off just getting Balmex or some sort of flavored balm. It may be nice in the club or for pictures, but if you think you’re going to end up kissing, have a backup lip gloss more conducive with lip locking than Mac.

Obviously kissing is VERY intimate, it’s extremely up close and personal. Throw in the times when you lock eyes and you have moments when you can literally see someone’s soul, face to face. For some it’s too intimate though. I asked my homegirl just like night how she felt about kissing and this is what she said: “…yea man, cant go around kissing everyone you sexin’”. I was shocked that she said it because she’s so not the whorish type at all. And it got me to thinking if even women like her aren’t down, then kissing is dead!

But the ones who like it, love it. And the ones who don’t like it, would rather be shot than participate. It just sounds crazy to me that people are perfectly fine having sex with someone, but not kissing. I don’t know if that says kissing is that disgusting or sex is that casual (probably a combo of the two). I’m still stuck somewhere in the middle on it. It has to be the right person, right time and I would have to KNOW you, and WELL. I need feedback on this one though: Kissing, yes or no? Why or why not? Comment Below.

Your Time to Shine...

So I know I ALWAYS make fun of all the girls who SWEAR they are models on facebook and myspace. Im not sorry, but I want you guys to prove me wrong. The next heART gallery, like we had live painting at the last, we're going to have a LIVE PHOTO SHOOT!!! Over the next couple of weeks we will narrow down all the pictures we receive to THREE models & award them with professional photography from Mary Grace Oania (google her) to help start their portfolio!!! Dope right? So if you have friends/cousins/co-workers/etc. tell them to send in a pic (I don't need to see you half naked, BUT, if you want to send those they can DEFINITELY be looked over) to my email address which is RodneyRikai@gmail.com, or Tex @ CitrusCity@gmail.com or Femi @ NJeducated@gmail.com. Serious inquiries only. We will also be supplying hair and makeup for you too, how dope is that?

This is for HIGH FASHION models ONLY. Not for those of you who are aspiring to be in XXL or Playboy or Gucci Man's new video. If you want to do those things, we CAN help you, but this event is geared towards another genre of model...

So if you're looking for a chance, or you've been plotting entering the industry and think you have what it takes, hit us up. This will be an on scene shoot, with onlookers, just like you'd have at ANY other shoot. Please be prepared to take direction and more importantly, work. We look forward to helping you launch a CAREER!

FIRST MOVE JITTERS

First Move Jitters

One of the most nerve racking things about dating/getting intimate with a female, at least to me, has always been to judge making the first move. Now that may seem trivial as hell, but the way and timing of the first “sexual” move can make or break a) a potential relationship or b) at the very least your night. Now I’m talking exclusively about THE move when you and shorty are together alone at either your house or hers (or for the NWDGF, some club or public place). The move when u decide to go for the gusto. Now depending on how you look at it I’ve either been blessed or cursed to have been thrust into a LOT of situations where I’ve had the privelege/opportunity to be able to make that move. To make this move depends on 2 key components: What kind of girl she is and What kind of dude you are. I’ve been able to characterize these into four roles and they are: Mr. Passive, Mr. Fumbles, Mr. Smoothe & NWDGF.

Mr. Passive.

Mr. Passive is not a confident guy. He goes back and forth debating whether or not she finds him attractive enough to even WANT to have sex with him at all. Usually Mr. Passive is semi-attractive, but he may have been teased as a youngster and now he just walks around hoping for a piece. He looks at the girl out of the corner of his eye when they’re sitting side by side. He keeps physical contact at a minimum just to avoid the confusion of sending the wrong message (i.e. he wants to BONE). Mr passive is definitely a Shy Guy, think Robert Townsend in the Five Heartbeats. When he departs from his lady friends he ALWAYS says or thinks things like “damn, I should have tried to kiss her” , “Damn, why don’t they ever make the first move” or lastly “am I really THAT corny?”… If you guessed Mr. Passive doesn’t have any game, you guessed right. He hears wild stories from his boys who have told him their stories of minimal words leading into wild sex, and he just wants a piece of that action. He doesn’t necessarily want to work hard, but he usually does. Eventually Mr. Passive gets desperate and will just flat out grab a titty at an inopportune time, at which point it’s a WRAP for him. His First Move isn’t really a move at all, once Mr. Passive reaches his breaking point after not having any for weeks, he gets desperate and asks “Can I eat your P#ssy?”… Yes ladies, he’s THAT Guy.

Mr. Fumbles

Mr. Fumbles is a guy who at the start of the night had the world in his palm. He had everything going perfect, he was looking nice, breathe was fresh… He literally could have taken her home within the first 15 min and been GOOD, but now… Not so much. Once alone in private, Mr. Fumbles just cant get right. He is KNOWN for blurting out stupid ass shit, that make girls second guess their decision to sleep with him. But even after the first slip up they still think he’s worthy of a romp in the sack. But Mr. Fumbles just cant ever seem to hold on, and his night always end in a downward spiral. He’s trying to be funny, but he just keeps on insulting her with lines like “Damn why your feet look like that?” or “You cant really cook yo…”. He’s thinking he’s being “whitty” little does he know he is just killing his own night. After the comical insults, Mr. Fumbles can often feel the air being sucked out of the room, so he’ll make a desperate attempt and just try to dive right in. He starts by hugging his lady friend from the back, trying to whisper sexy things, but ultimately is uncovering who he truly is at heart, a corny ass nigga. At this point the girl has had enough! While she made plans for Mr. Fumbles to stay the night, at this point she has indefinitely decided to keep this clown on the couch or at the worst the other side of the bed (n/a in Twin XL college style living, he’s just gonna leave because she forgot about an appointment in the AM). He realizes something has changed so he starts trying to compliment her while turning her on. He then starts to say things like “Damn girl you’re so beautiful”, meanwhile, she’s looking in the opposite direction and he’s trying to rub her butt. Mr. Fumbles just cant get right. His signature move is waiting til about 4 a.m. when his lady friend is sound asleep, he starts to rub her and slide his fingers in-between the crevices of the THICK ASS sweat pants she is now wearing. It never works though and his lady friend never returns his calls thereafter…

Mr. Smooth

Mr. Smooth is THAT guy. The one you see on TV who you want to be. Think of Will Smith in Hitch. He is the envy of a whole lotta brothas (or his white buddies, we embrace all races here at MenWithGirls!), and sought after by a whole lot of women who have had previous run-ins with Mr. Passive and Mr. Fumbles. The main difference between Mr. Smooth and everyone else, is he creates opportunities out of situations he had NO business getting some (i.e. hitting the best friend of an ex, professors, older women, lady officers). When Mr. Smooth is alone with his lady friend, it’s money in the bank. Why? Because Mr. Smooth wont do anything to fuck it up! He wont say anything dumb, he might even stay relatively quiet just to MAKE SURE he doesn’t say anything even remotely close to Mr. Fumbles (I’ve known some dumbass Mr. Smooth’s in my day, and girls didn’t even know they were dumb til they started actually trying to date the guy. But, by that point who cares, really?). He is sensual, he knows the female anatomy so when he goes in for his first move he has already figured her spot to be either the neck, leg, back, hair or whatever part of the body. Mr. Smooth is a rare gem in that he actually knows who he’ll have sex with before the woman does! Gotdamn he’s good! Throughout the night Mr. Smooth gives compliments, touches tenderly, and says things like “I mean I’ve had my share of women, but im past that now”. Sometimes Mr. Smooth is so good at what he does, his first move is falling back and letting his lady friend make the move on him. He is often surprised with candles and lingerie, as most women already know they want him. But if I had to name his first move, its cuddling with strong passionate hand rubs on discreet parts of the body.

NWDGF

This is guy is dangerous. The whole time throughout this article I know you were like what the hell is NWDGF, well let me break it down for you these are NIGGAS WHO DON’T GIVE A FUCK! These guys are aggressive, beyond aggressive. They’re the guys who holla at a girl, and because she says no he spazzes out, calls her a bitch and the whole nine. His mentality when with a jawn (he wouldn’t use the term lady friend, and I don’t say the word bitch) is “I’m GETTING that pussy” and not in a sane sort of way. This nigga will wrestle women til they’re half off the bed just for some skins. His reputation doesn’t precede him because the women he’s left in his wake are kinda afraid. Unlike Mr. Fumbles if at 4am he hasn’t gotten any yet, he’s not trying to rub nothing. He’s straight ripping the sweat pants down and tryna go in raw diggity. Unlike Mr. Smooth he doesn’t care what he says, he’s not monitoring himself for nothing. He usually hates Mr. Smooth in all honesty… Now with all that said NWDGF actually get some. More than just about everybody else but Mr. Smooth. Why? Because some girls just love that ignorant shit. They like when a man just talks to them any kind of way, and a lot of times these are the BADDEST women, ones Mr. Smooth can get with because he’s too smooth. He’s perfectly ignorant, the kind of guy mommy and daddy told this young lady to stay away from when she was growing up. That only made her want him more though. NWDGF are usually in crazy ass relationships where yelling and screaming are constants. And when he does have a jawn over, his wifey usually ends up banging on his door, knowing he’s up to no good. But that wont stop him. NWDGF first move is usually roughhousing or aggressive fondling.

written by rodney rikai